Why Strangers Can Seem so Attractive

Strangers have an odd habit of seeming a lot more attractive to us than long-established and well-known partners. That s not necessarily because they really are superior, simply that we know them a lot less well. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: https://bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: https://bit.ly/2Rf29dV Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: https://bit.ly/2Byjjt4 2rTOWst FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: https://bit.ly/2QOOPxe “The Incumbent Problem refers to the vast, but often overlooked and unfair advantage that all new people, cities and jobs have over existing – or, as we put it, incumbent – ones. The beautiful person glimpsed briefly in the street as we step off the bus, the city visited for a few days of holiday, the job we read about in a few tantalising paragraphs of a magazine; these have unwise tendencies to seem immediately and definitively superior to our current partner, our long-established home and our committed workplace and can inspire us to sudden and (in retrospect sometimes) regrettable divorces, relocations and resignations…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: https://bit.ly/2QM7JVz Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: https://www.youtube.com/timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: https://support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2rTOWst Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Alice Dunseath http://www.alicedunseath.com/