12 Questions to Evaluate your Parents

We might think back to our pasts and give our carers a score out of ten to measure how things went. It isn’t unfair or mean sometimes - in the privacy of our own minds - to hold people to account. Finish the sentence, "My Parent made me below and give each a score out of 10. My parent made me: - feel deeply loved and wanted. - Was often highly attuned to what I actually felt - Was able to tolerate a degree of innocent disobedience - Was authentically happy about my success - Lacked sadistic impulses - Avoided imposing too many of their own issues on me - Didn’t demand to be admired - Wasn’t too exciting - Knew how to play - Had boundaries - Tolerated dissent - Took an interest in my ‘small’ joys and pains We don’t need a score of a hundred and twenty to be robust, but if things were to drop much below sixty, there might be grounds for a good deal of reflection and sorrow. Sign up to our mailing list to receive 10% off your first order with us: https://r1.dotdigital-pages.com/p/6TU0-63X/hellotsol If you want to keep working on your mental well-being and self-understanding, download our hugely helpful new app now: https://bit.ly/3uyXqG1 For information on The School of Life’s learning and wellbeing solutions for businesses, including workshops and talks, visit https://bit.ly/3ICqvGw Email business@theschooloflife.com or join our monthly business newsletter: https://bit.ly/3ICEJHq Join this channel to get access to exclusive members perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog/join If you want to keep working on your mental well-being and self-understanding, download our hugely helpful new app now: https://bit.ly/3V1DozW For books and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: https://bit.ly/3CwCnIQ Our website has articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: https://bit.ly/3SCof6B FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: https://bit.ly/3Mdm2fy “Some people assume that you can’t really say what a good — or indeed a bad — parent actually is. But we don’t agree. So we’ve designed a checklist of what we think makes up a good parent…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLself SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: ttps://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life-for-business/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Gemma Green-Hope http://gemmagreenhope.com Sarah Hope http://www.artist-sarah-hope.co.uk Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions https://www.valeproductions.co.uk/